Children have a whole arsenal of tactics for evading things they don’t want to do, from ignoring instructions to whining and wheedling to active defiance. Your average parent is familiar with most of them. But some kids are definitely harder to manage than others, and almost every day we hear from parents who feel that they’re losing the battle.
If kids are seriously out of control, parent training can be a lifesaver; we’ve seen it many times. But parents who apply the principles on their own can also see good results both at home and at school.
First, stay calm! Countless studies show that calm voices = calmer children + better communication. A few more tips from The Child Mind Institute at http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2012-3-13-stop-yelling