Children have a whole arsenal of tactics for evading things they don’t want to do, from ignoring instructions to whining and wheedling to active defiance. Your average parent is familiar with most of them. But some kids are definitely harder to manage than others, and almost every day we hear from parents who feel that they’re losing the battle.
If kids are seriously out of control, parent training can be a lifesaver; we’ve seen it many times. But parents who apply the principles on their own can also see good results both at home and at school.
First, stay calm! Countless studies show that calm voices = calmer children + better communication. A few more tips from The Child Mind Institute at http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2012-3-13-stop-yelling
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小童有一整套機制去避開他們不想做的事，由不理會指令至發出哀叫，由哄騙到直接抗命。很多家長對這些行為都習以爲常，不過，有些孩子就是比別人更難控制，我們差不多每天都可以聽到這些家長猶如敗陣的感受。
不過，我們發現，如果小孩的失控情況嚴重，適當的家長訓練會有所幫助。而且，如果家長能很好地應用這些原理，他們會看到無論在家裏或在學校，都可以收到良好效果。
首先，請保持冷靜! 無數研究已指出平和的聲音= 冷靜的小孩 + 較好的溝通。
更多的貼士，請到The Child Mind Institute 的網站參閱:
http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2012-3-13-stop-yelling