Here are some factors that can make school and social issues more stressful. Understanding these challenges may make it easier for you to figure out how to support our child:
1. Your child worries he can’t keep up.
Instead of focusing on the lesson being taught, he’s distracted by how much more everyone seems to know.
2. Your child has a hard time making friends.
If he has social skill issues, he may not have friends he can open up to or blow off steam with.
3. Your child takes longer to complete homework and classwork – and it takes more effort.
That leaves him more exhausted, and with less down time to recharge.
4. Your child experiences failure more than success.
As a result, he may be anxious and fearful about tests, new social situation and more.
5. Your child lacks coping skills.
He may not be able to break down difficult projects into smaller pieces or spread out assignments over time. He may be rigid and get flustered by changes at school.
6. Your child worries about standing out or being “discovered”.
Instead of raising his hand and asking questions, he may simply fall behind. He may worry about being seen with his reading aide and “forget” to go see her.
7. Your child doesn’t have the self-awareness to know he needs help.
This is all the more reason to stay tuned-in to his behavior and ask questions about what’s going on with school and friends.
8. Your child can sense your stress.
He’s absorbing your conversations about him in the front seat of the car and your worries about whether he’ll be able to go to college.
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以下是一些可能會增加小孩在學校及社交方面壓力的因素，了解這些因素有助你尋找幫助孩子的方法。
孩子擔心趕不上別人
因爲擔心別人知道的比自己多，孩子無法專心上課。
孩子無法結交朋友
如果孩子有社交障礙問題，他可能沒有一個可交心或傾訴的朋友。
孩子完成功課和堂上作業都比人慢 – 比別人要花更多力氣
這令他更疲憊，亦減少了他的休息時間。
孩子失敗的經驗多於成功
由於經常失敗，他對測驗考試，以致新的社交環境等都會更爲緊張和害怕。
孩子缺乏應對技巧
他不太擅長將複雜的作業分拆成幾部份來完成，或者不懂安排時間分段完成大量的作業。他可能會固執死板，學校的任何改變都讓他感到焦躁不安。
孩子害怕自己太顯眼或被關注
他寧願落後於人，也不舉手發問，成爲大家關注的目標。爲了不讓人看見，他會故意“忘記”去見閲讀助理。
孩子沒有意識到自己需要幫忙
正因他沒有向人求助的意識，家長應該多加留意他的行為，並詢問他有關學校和交友的狀況。
孩子會感到家長的壓力
孩子會通過日常生活中家長的對話，了解到你對他的看法，以及你對他能否上大學等等的憂慮。