When they think they are “Stupid”.

Children often notice if they aren’t learning at the same pace as the other kids, and can assume it is because they just aren’t smart.

What to do:

  • Make sure your child understands what a learning disability is. In fact a learning disability is identified when an expert recognizes that a child is not performing up to her natural ability in a particular area. Hearing explicitly that a learning disability has nothing to do with intelligence can be very meaningful to kids.

  • Talk it through. Ideally you, your child, and whoever is working with your child should talk about the learning disability together. Sometimes parents think kids won’t understand, but a learning expert can help you find developmentally appropriate language to use.

  • Think about the messages you are sending. Children are very sensitive to their parents’ emotions, and if they sense that you are uncomfortable with their diagnosis, or that you think that having a learning disability is a bad thing, they will probably feel the same way.

  • Examine your own feelings. Because learning disabilities in children can be genetic, sometimes seeing a child struggling can also bring back difficult memories for parents, or make them feel guilty. You may want to schedule a separate appointment to discuss any questions or concerns you have with your child’s provider. The best way to help your child feel more positive is if you start feeling positive, too.




  • 幫助孩子搞清楚什麽是學習障礙。其實,當專家們發現一個孩子在某一特定範疇的表現,達不到他應有的能力水平時,就説明這孩子存在學習障礙。能夠明確地聽到學習障礙與自己的智能完全無關,這點對孩子來説非常重要。

  • 好好地詳細解釋説明。最理想的情況是父母,孩子以及負責跟進這孩子的專業人士一起坐下來,把事情談個透徹。有時家長以爲孩子會聼不懂,但有處理學習問題的專家在場,就可以幫你用一種適合孩子年齡的語言來解釋説明。

  • 想清楚你要傳遞的訊息。孩子對父母的情緒是非常敏感的,如果他覺得你對診斷結果不安,或者你覺得有學習障礙是一件壞透的事情,他們很有可能會受你感染。

  • 檢視你自己的感受。因爲學習障礙是有遺傳因素的,有時家長看見孩子苦苦掙扎,會不期然地想起一些自己過往的痛苦回憶,又或者會感到愧疚。這時,你可能需要與這位跟進孩子的專業人士另約面談,去處理你的疑問和擔憂。要讓孩子變得更正面,最佳的方法就是由你開始。